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Me and my Ego…

Me and my Ego.
As I write that I can hear the tune of ‘Me and my Shaaadow..’

Anyways…back to my Ego.

I have always struggled, for as long as I can remember, with less than stellar levels of self confidence and caring way too much about what other people think of me. I’m not sure why or where it all began, but I know that it is a pesky issue and it’s time for a change!

I just read this article over at Mind. Body. Green. (Awesome site, btw) and although it is short and sweet and slightly vague, it really resonated with me. The simplicity of it, and perhaps the superb timing, grabbed me and put my ego in it’s place.


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I often hang out in a place of fear and worry.  And although I am quite free spirited and follow my heart (often without the help of my brain!), I get caught up in the ego of worrying what other people will say about me and the choices I make.  This often ends badly.  It ends with me second guessing my follow-my-heart attitude.  And that ends up with me not finishing what I started.  And then I feel terrible.  And so begins the mad cycle.

So.  Today I declare, out loud, on the web, publicly to you all!  No more!!  NO MORE! (sorry for shouting…)  It really is none of my business what other people think of me.  Good or bad, I have zero control over the opinions of others when it comes to me.  No matter what I do or say, they will make up their own minds based on their own experiences, mind set and attitude.

I hope you will join me in an effort to be free to be ourselves.  To not let the thoughts of others hold us back from what we are truly capable of!  You can do and be anything and everything you want to do and be!

We are beautiful souls all her together to support and love and be happy.

Much love to you all! 🙂



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Determining a Business Model on Day 11 of the 30 Day Blog Challenge

Here we are on Day 11 of the 30 Day Blog Challenge.  Today we are looking at what our business model will be and whether we will be creating active and/or residual income.

Today is really where the 1 Page Business Plan comes in handy 😉

My goal with this blog and the online part of my business is to work with women, with a focus on moms (cause that’s who I know 😉 ) and help them get back into their own life, their own skin, their own hearts through fitness, holistic nutrition and empowerment coaching.  Mind. Body. Spirit. As women, as mother’s, we tend to get lost in our lives filled with taking care of everyone and get into the habit of putting ourselves on the back burner.  We think ‘well, for right now I will focus on everyone else and when I have more time, then I will focus on me.’

What we tend to forget is that when we have time, there ends up being more work than if we had just taken time for ourselves all along.  Then we end up giving up.  Throwing our hands in the air and then continuing on in the life we created, not the life we truly want for ourselves.  Along with this, we also forget that by taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves first, we are better at everything!  Better moms.  Better wives.  Better friends.  Everything.

So, with that said, I plan to focus on selling myself.  I will offer myself, my knowledge, my experience and my love personally, one and one and in groups. I will also offer e books, pod casts, and self led courses to create residual income from my own products.

In order to really get the most out of this, I will also be selling for others, creating more residual income while also helping other business grow.  This will allow me to not worry about the day-to-day and to really focus 110% on my clients and their personal journeys. I will use affiliate trust marketing to help create multiple revenue streams that don’t take too much time away from what I truly want to achieve.

Right now, I am working on a lot of projects.  Some individual, some partnered, all awesome.  They all have one common thread and that is helping people grow and change and live the life they want so bad to be living.  Mind. Body. Spirit.

One of these projects is a fitness studio, a brick and mortar business.  (eek!) With this business, I plan to get to a point where it runs well on its own and I can coach and train individuals, allowing me to give my clients everything they need, and most importantly, my undivided attention.

I am so SO excited about the direction my life is going.  While it may not seem to be the life I want right now, I know that I am at least on the right path.  It will be interesting to read these posts after 1 year has gone by…


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Tools & Resources…30 Day Blog Challenge Day 7

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Today, Natalie asks:

Which key tools will you turn to regularly to maintain your mindset and how will you use them effectively?

Initially I felt like these tools needed to be online tools that I could use to keep myself in check.  There are a lot of them out there.  A lot!  But as I searched and sifted and filtered through them, I realized that, while I am a quick learner and enjoy learning the ins and outs of social media, online tools, widgets, blogs…when it comes to my own personal accountability, I prefer to go old school.

Bound journals, dream boards made from poster board, glue and magazines kind of old school.  I enjoy being able to sit with a cup of tea, (ok coffee, let’s be honest here), and writing in a journal.  I have always loved it and I don’t see that changing anytime soon.

 While blogging is proving to me to be a great outlet online, I will always go back to my paper and pencil (I love me a freshly sharpened pencil…) for my more personal meant-for-only-me posts.  I have so many journals going back years and years, I love pulling them out and reading my thoughts from back in the day.  I laugh at myself often and think a lot of ‘what was I thinking??’s, but isn’t that the point?  To reflect and learn?

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I also love old school vision and dream boards. (Who doesn’t love crisp poster board, dull scissors and Elmer’s??)  I love having it posted in front of me when I am working in my home office.  It keeps me on track by reminding me of where I am going and what my values are. However, I am going to get started with one online as well.  I found one that I love here (thanks, Oprah!)  I will most definitely share it with you here when I get it started.

Another tool I will use, and one that was suggested by Natalie at The Suitcase Entrepreneur, is staying in control of my health and well-being.

I love to run.  I am a runner.  Running is a release, a source of pride, a great way to spend a Sunday morning.  This is a major tool I use to keep myself on track.  It is the most effective form of exercise/therapy/goal setting/accountability I can use.  Yoga, green smoothies, fresh juice and raw vegan diet will also help me stay clear and energized while I grow my empire 🙂

I will, of course, be using a lot of online tools that are available to (soon to be) location independent chicas like me.  Things like SugarCRM, Mad Mimi, Fresh Books and more are all in my business tool kit.  But when it comes to motivating myself and keeping myself on track, I am going to stick with what I know works for me.

Off I go with my bound journal, poster board and magazines, living with purpose and changing lives like nobody’s business 😉

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Next up: Priorities. 30 Day Blog Challenge Day 6


Now that I have my perfect day (or one version of it, at least) I now need to make my list o’priorities that will bring me closer to my goal life.  What do I need to start doing now in order to get me to where I want to be?

Insert me pondering….

Ok, in no particular order, here is what I think are my next steps to living the life of my dreams…

First of all, I need to get down and dirty in the business of envisioning exactly what it is I want!  Reading my Day 5 post again (and again…) I realize that the day I described is a lovely day.  Perfectly simple and definitely makes me feel how I want to feel every day.  But I also think when I wrote it I was holding back.  I was allowing my in-the-box limitations cloud what I really want!  In short, I wasn’t dreaming big enough!!  So, step one, Create a clear and perfect vision of what I want out of life.  To do this I will start a perfect day journal where I will write down all the real days I have that I deem as awesome, as well as the dreams and goals I want to achieve in my life.  I am also going to create a dream/vision board and put it on my wall in my office.  And take a photo with my phone so it is always with me to refer to.

Priority #2.  I would like to be generating income from my blog (soon to be blogS…another project is in the works 🙂 )  To do this, I need to learn how to do this!  Haha 😉  I have some ideas that are rattling around in my head so now it is time to put those into action.  I’ll need to enlist the help of a pro and make a solid plan to get that moving forward.

And last (but not really least) I need to focus more on my studio.  Yes, while I dream of having a location independent business life, I am in the process of opening my own fitness studio.  This is a great opportunity for me right now and I am extremely excited about it!  It is not, however, particularly what I want for my future self. What it is, a great opportunity to learn and grow.  It is a huge stepping stone boulder on the path to where I want to end up. My dream is to be in a position of knowledge through books and life to be able to help others live the life of their dreams. Mind, body and spirit.

So there they are.  My top 3 priorities for the next 30 days.  Let’s do this!

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Work. Play. And everything in between – 30 blog challenge day 5

Day 5 Question: What does your perfect day look like?

Ok, this one took me longer than anticipated to write.  I think I just put it off because it seemed like a lot of work. In fact, I am writing it a day late 😮 It seems so simple and innocent at first, until I really started to think about what my perfect day would look like!  I think the problem is is that I have so many versions of a perfect day, or perfect moments, that I didn’t know where to begin.  So naturally, I began nowhere…

Here is my solution: just sit down and write.  Don’t think, just write.

This morning I woke up around 5:30 am to a crisp, beautiful fall morning on the West Coast.  I love so much where we live here on the ocean front.  I got up out of bed, quietly so not to wake anyone else up in the house, let Sidney outside to do her own business and then headed to the kitchen to make a quick juice.

I grabbed my laptop and notebook and headed out onto the deck, overlooking the ocean.  It was chilly so I grabbed a blanket and my favorite cozy hoodie and got comfortable at the table outside with Sid by my side.  I took a sip of my juice (yum!), opened my laptop and checked my emails. It was so nice to see how many of my e books had sold!  Such a dream come true!  I caught up with my current clients and made sure they were all on track with their mind-body-spirit coaching programs, and then I read a few amazing and inspiring emails from some past clients!  I LOVE my work.  After that, I moved onto a few more emails from potential clients asking me to work with them.

After my emails are checked, answered and filed away, I sat back to enjoy the rest of my juice and take in our surroundings.  It’s early fall now, my favorite time of year, and soon it will be too cold to sit out on the deck to work!  I’m excited to take the boys apple picking later this afternoon, I hope they are too!

I finish  my juice and head inside to tidy up the kitchen and make myself a decaf almond milk latte.  After a couple of sips, I hear little feet coming down the hall.  B is up and has decided to join me in the kitchen.  Love that little guy 🙂  I make some breakfast for him and we sit together quietly for a few moments, until he decides he’s done being quiet and jumps into my lap! Pretty soon, everyone is up and eating which means it is my chance to head out for a quick run before it’s time to start our day.

I gear up, grab Sid and head out for an hour run. I get back feeling refreshed and I hop in the shower to start getting ready for our day out.  Today is my day off from work so it is a full day with my boys.  I get out of the shower, towel off and get dressed in some jeans, tank top and my warm, wool cardigan.  I grab some slip on shoes and head out to help the boys get ready.  I have a few more sips of my coffee.

Now that everyone is dressed and ready to go (with  minimal whining and complaining) we get into the car and head down to the Apple Barn to meet up with Grandma and Grandpa for some apple picking.  The boys are so excited!  We pick more than our share of apples, laugh, run around the orchard until soon the crankies come out and it’s time for us to head out for a hot chocolate.  We pay and load up our apples in the car and decide to head over to a local coffee shop for a treat for the boys.  After we are all done, we make our way over the Grandma and Grandpa’s for a BBQ with the family.  A few old friends come along as well and we have a great meal and visit.

I put the boys to bed and head out for a few drinks with an old friend.  I love catching up with my long time friends, we don’t see each other often but it’s so great when we do!  We have a little wine and little appy and chat for a couple of hours.  Such a good time!

After a fun and quiet night out, I head back to my parents, pick up my sleeping boys and head home.  Once the boys are tucked in and settled in their own beds, I snuggle in to bed with a book and read myself to sleep.

Of course, mid way through the night, I have two little boys snuggled up beside me.

This is one version of a perfect day.  Simple, easy-going, real.  I love to visit with family and old friends and I love to snuggle with my boys!  A little bit of work and a nice run in the morning is a nice way to start the day feeling accomplished and ready to go.

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Freedom. Defined. 30 Day Blog Challenge Day 3

Q: What is my definition of freedom in business and life?

A: (long winded. bear with me)

Yesterday’s challenge has really got me thinking.  Thinking not only about how I want my life to look like now and moving forward, but also thinking about my life before.  As in years ago.  Eons, even, when I was younger.  Thinking about the things I did that brought me joy and how many of those things are no longer a part of my life.  Some are gone because I grew up and changed and learned.  And some are gone for reasons that are lost on me.

Let’s take singing, for example.  ILoveToSing.  Love it.  And for anyone who has known me for years, eons, decades, knows this about me.  I have always sang on my own, in the shower, out of the shower, in choirs, in other countries.  Love it.  Not the best singer, but I sing with all my heart 😉 Well, sang.  Somehow, that part of my life is gone.  Aside from the obnoxious car singing that must look like I’m talking to myself to other drivers, I don’t sing anymore.  And it makes me sad.  It actually makes me sad daily!  Why don’t I sing anymore??

Okay, I know this seems like it’s off topic, but it leads me to my answer of what my definition of freedom in my life is.  Along with being a singer, or a lover of singing, I am a caregiver/pleaser/lovernotafighter.  Sometimes to a fault.  I love to make people around me feel comfortable and happy, and sometimes that means letting go of something I love or want.  I like this about me, and I hate this about me. Getting to my point…..  Freedom in my life means feeling free to be, say, do all the things that I am.  Without worrying about what other people think.  Freedom in my life means letting go of judgements and letting go of the judgements I think are being made on me.  This is the one area of my life that I have struggled with for as long as I can remember.  It makes it tricky to answer questions like the one asked yesterday.  But, as time rolls along and I continue aging growing, I am starting to get back to the basics of me.  That is my definition of freedom in my life.

As for freedom in business, I think part of that answer requires accomplishing what I talked about above.  Knowing who you are and being who you are without judgement on yourself or anyone else.  Just walkin along, singin your song.  It requires knowing who you are and what you want.  I know that I want a business that allows me to do what I want and get paid well for it.  I want to be able to sit on my deck, overlooking some type of water (preferably the ocean, either Canadian coast will do) on a crisp, sunny, fall day and help people achieve goals and be their best selves, all over the world.  I want to spent the better part of my day with my family, relaxed and not rushing, enjoying whatever it is that we choose to do.  I want to know that my work impacts a good number of people in the most positive and uplifting way and I want my boys to see what I do and be proud to be a part of it.  I want to inspire and encourage them.  I want to make a positive difference.

I am so happy to have made the choice to participate in this 30 Day Blog Challenge.  I said from the start that I had a feeling I would learn a lot about myself.  So far that is the truth.

Until tomorrow!

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