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Me and my Ego…

Me and my Ego.
As I write that I can hear the tune of ‘Me and my Shaaadow..’

Anyways…back to my Ego.

I have always struggled, for as long as I can remember, with less than stellar levels of self confidence and caring way too much about what other people think of me. I’m not sure why or where it all began, but I know that it is a pesky issue and it’s time for a change!

I just read this article over at Mind. Body. Green. (Awesome site, btw) and although it is short and sweet and slightly vague, it really resonated with me. The simplicity of it, and perhaps the superb timing, grabbed me and put my ego in it’s place.

 

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FYI 😉

 

I often hang out in a place of fear and worry.  And although I am quite free spirited and follow my heart (often without the help of my brain!), I get caught up in the ego of worrying what other people will say about me and the choices I make.  This often ends badly.  It ends with me second guessing my follow-my-heart attitude.  And that ends up with me not finishing what I started.  And then I feel terrible.  And so begins the mad cycle.

So.  Today I declare, out loud, on the web, publicly to you all!  No more!!  NO MORE! (sorry for shouting…)  It really is none of my business what other people think of me.  Good or bad, I have zero control over the opinions of others when it comes to me.  No matter what I do or say, they will make up their own minds based on their own experiences, mind set and attitude.

I hope you will join me in an effort to be free to be ourselves.  To not let the thoughts of others hold us back from what we are truly capable of!  You can do and be anything and everything you want to do and be!

We are beautiful souls all her together to support and love and be happy.

Much love to you all! 🙂

 

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Next up: Priorities. 30 Day Blog Challenge Day 6

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Now that I have my perfect day (or one version of it, at least) I now need to make my list o’priorities that will bring me closer to my goal life.  What do I need to start doing now in order to get me to where I want to be?

Insert me pondering….

Ok, in no particular order, here is what I think are my next steps to living the life of my dreams…

First of all, I need to get down and dirty in the business of envisioning exactly what it is I want!  Reading my Day 5 post again (and again…) I realize that the day I described is a lovely day.  Perfectly simple and definitely makes me feel how I want to feel every day.  But I also think when I wrote it I was holding back.  I was allowing my in-the-box limitations cloud what I really want!  In short, I wasn’t dreaming big enough!!  So, step one, Create a clear and perfect vision of what I want out of life.  To do this I will start a perfect day journal where I will write down all the real days I have that I deem as awesome, as well as the dreams and goals I want to achieve in my life.  I am also going to create a dream/vision board and put it on my wall in my office.  And take a photo with my phone so it is always with me to refer to.

Priority #2.  I would like to be generating income from my blog (soon to be blogS…another project is in the works 🙂 )  To do this, I need to learn how to do this!  Haha 😉  I have some ideas that are rattling around in my head so now it is time to put those into action.  I’ll need to enlist the help of a pro and make a solid plan to get that moving forward.

And last (but not really least) I need to focus more on my studio.  Yes, while I dream of having a location independent business life, I am in the process of opening my own fitness studio.  This is a great opportunity for me right now and I am extremely excited about it!  It is not, however, particularly what I want for my future self. What it is, a great opportunity to learn and grow.  It is a huge stepping stone boulder on the path to where I want to end up. My dream is to be in a position of knowledge through books and life to be able to help others live the life of their dreams. Mind, body and spirit.

So there they are.  My top 3 priorities for the next 30 days.  Let’s do this!

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Work. Play. And everything in between – 30 blog challenge day 5

Day 5 Question: What does your perfect day look like?

Ok, this one took me longer than anticipated to write.  I think I just put it off because it seemed like a lot of work. In fact, I am writing it a day late 😮 It seems so simple and innocent at first, until I really started to think about what my perfect day would look like!  I think the problem is is that I have so many versions of a perfect day, or perfect moments, that I didn’t know where to begin.  So naturally, I began nowhere…

Here is my solution: just sit down and write.  Don’t think, just write.

This morning I woke up around 5:30 am to a crisp, beautiful fall morning on the West Coast.  I love so much where we live here on the ocean front.  I got up out of bed, quietly so not to wake anyone else up in the house, let Sidney outside to do her own business and then headed to the kitchen to make a quick juice.

I grabbed my laptop and notebook and headed out onto the deck, overlooking the ocean.  It was chilly so I grabbed a blanket and my favorite cozy hoodie and got comfortable at the table outside with Sid by my side.  I took a sip of my juice (yum!), opened my laptop and checked my emails. It was so nice to see how many of my e books had sold!  Such a dream come true!  I caught up with my current clients and made sure they were all on track with their mind-body-spirit coaching programs, and then I read a few amazing and inspiring emails from some past clients!  I LOVE my work.  After that, I moved onto a few more emails from potential clients asking me to work with them.

After my emails are checked, answered and filed away, I sat back to enjoy the rest of my juice and take in our surroundings.  It’s early fall now, my favorite time of year, and soon it will be too cold to sit out on the deck to work!  I’m excited to take the boys apple picking later this afternoon, I hope they are too!

I finish  my juice and head inside to tidy up the kitchen and make myself a decaf almond milk latte.  After a couple of sips, I hear little feet coming down the hall.  B is up and has decided to join me in the kitchen.  Love that little guy 🙂  I make some breakfast for him and we sit together quietly for a few moments, until he decides he’s done being quiet and jumps into my lap! Pretty soon, everyone is up and eating which means it is my chance to head out for a quick run before it’s time to start our day.

I gear up, grab Sid and head out for an hour run. I get back feeling refreshed and I hop in the shower to start getting ready for our day out.  Today is my day off from work so it is a full day with my boys.  I get out of the shower, towel off and get dressed in some jeans, tank top and my warm, wool cardigan.  I grab some slip on shoes and head out to help the boys get ready.  I have a few more sips of my coffee.

Now that everyone is dressed and ready to go (with  minimal whining and complaining) we get into the car and head down to the Apple Barn to meet up with Grandma and Grandpa for some apple picking.  The boys are so excited!  We pick more than our share of apples, laugh, run around the orchard until soon the crankies come out and it’s time for us to head out for a hot chocolate.  We pay and load up our apples in the car and decide to head over to a local coffee shop for a treat for the boys.  After we are all done, we make our way over the Grandma and Grandpa’s for a BBQ with the family.  A few old friends come along as well and we have a great meal and visit.

I put the boys to bed and head out for a few drinks with an old friend.  I love catching up with my long time friends, we don’t see each other often but it’s so great when we do!  We have a little wine and little appy and chat for a couple of hours.  Such a good time!

After a fun and quiet night out, I head back to my parents, pick up my sleeping boys and head home.  Once the boys are tucked in and settled in their own beds, I snuggle in to bed with a book and read myself to sleep.

Of course, mid way through the night, I have two little boys snuggled up beside me.

This is one version of a perfect day.  Simple, easy-going, real.  I love to visit with family and old friends and I love to snuggle with my boys!  A little bit of work and a nice run in the morning is a nice way to start the day feeling accomplished and ready to go.

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Free & Easy? 30 Day Blog Challenge Day 2

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Wow.  Today’s question is a doozy.  It should be easy, but with all the limitations we allow into our minds and hearts, this question is tricky to answer…here it is..

If you woke up tomorrow and were free to do anything you wanted with your life, what would you do and who would you be?

Time to let go of my limitations.  Be prepared for some crazy honest ideas!  😉

If I woke up tomorrow and were free to do anything I wanted with my life, I would sleepEat.  Travel.  Yes.  I would travel.  I would take my kids all around the world to experience amazing things and meet incredible people!  Well, that answer surprised me!

I think I would just like to be able to head off anywhere and spend time with my little family anywhere our hearts desired.  If there were no day to day limitations or duties or jobs, I don’t think I would stay put.  I’d love to be able to show my kids how people live in other parts of the world and have them experience life outside of Canada.  I think know they would learn so much!

I would want to run marathons in different countries.  And I would love to have a home base in Canada, near water, on a lot of land, with a lot of dogs, and an amazing fitness facility in my own home.  I would go to school and learn all the things I want to learn about including more fitness, nutrition, coaching, psychology, wellness, specialty cooking.  How to help people realize their dreams and their potential.

And let’s put a garden on that home base, filled with lush greens and veggies for our fresh juices and to snack on whenever we felt snacky.  My kids could sow, and reap.  Be proud of their hard work!

And I would sleep.  I would pick one day every week where I would spend the whole day in bed watching re runs of Gilmore Girls or some old favourite movies like Hope Floats and You’ve Got Mail.  All while sipping almond milk lattes from my mug the size of a cereal bowl and eating bowls full of fresh berries and warm, gluten free bread with peanut butter. I would also read the 15,000 books that are on my shelf waiting to be loved.

I would love to entertain my friends and family and their little families.  Fill them up with love and laughter and nourishing food and drink.  Lots of space to play and enjoy.

This sounds like a lovely life filled with everything I enjoy.  Family, friends, food, health, coffee…

As I write this, I slowly realize that all I really want is to wake up and just enjoy my life.  Whatever I am doing.  Be grateful for what I have and stop agonizing over my ‘first world problems’. If I could wake up free to do whatever I wanted, I would choose to live freely.  Live without guilt and worry. Live in gratitude for every little piece of my life, because in all reality, my life is great as it is.  I find I am always searching for something out there that is ‘the’ thing that will bring my life back together, when all I really need to do is look in.  Always looking out, time to start looking in.

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